IT IS NOT A CURSE - just a warning

IT IS NOT A CURSE - just a warning

Change ourselves or face problems in future

Whenever someone is angry at our actions and says something unpleasant about our future, like 'you will suffer in future' (implied -> you do not understand the difficulties until you face severe problems in future), it is not their curse that brings about problems for us. It is our own wrong ways, if continued, that brings about difficulties. Those words from others are like the rear-lights / brake-lights of the vehicle in front. They are just a warning for us to slow down or change course, if we want to avoid accident. It would be stupid to blame the brake-light for cursing us into an accident.

Conditions not favourable - drive slowly, carefully, with full attention

Sometimes even parents yell at the children seemingly cursing their future ("big difficulties will come your way when you get older [nalla kashtapadu]"). They may be angry at disobedience, or lack of discipline. Sometimes it is adamant behaviour that ticks others off, or just plain lies / falsehood uttered often. Out of frustration, anger or disappointment our own friends / relatives curse us "wait till it happens to you"!

Fast forward to the future - if the "predicted" outcome follows, it does not mean that it was due to the "curse" of such a friend / relative - that is my opinion. They were only acting like brake-lights of the vehicle in front - they have experience of taking the road in front of us and are warning that we are not driving properly in that particular situation. The brake-lights cannot curse us and cause accidents. It is our lack of control, or bad observation or just plain wrong driving habits (speeding, weaving, texting while driving - whatever) that leads to accidents.

Be Thankful, they were signalling that we are going downhill - better to take proper steps

Similarly, we have to evaluate ourselves on whether the root cause of a (supposed) 'curse' is true in ourself. If it is true, and we realize+accept the truth, it is time to change to avoid future problems, difficulties or even accidents. Occasionally, the utterance is out of mis-understanding and we may be on the right side - then we can ignore their bad-wishes for us.

Don't blame brake-lights for accidents - don't blame negative wishes or predictions (curses) for our own problems.

Why we blame others

Article moved to Guru Raj blog

One of the bad habits that the parents and relatives teach children even before they can learn to speak is that we should blame others for our mistakes.

A simple example, is when the child stumbles while walking and falls. It is the child that made the misstep. Or it did not see an obstacle (or observe, if we wish to split hairs). The immediate reaction of people around is to say "It is the floor that made the mistake, let us beat it." This is just the beginning. Just to stop the child from crying, or from feeling bad about its mistake, we start teaching it to blame others.

Of course, when the child grows up and blames the lack of motorcycle, or expensive jewellery on their parents, it comes back to roost where it started.

Right from young age, children should be taught to be responsible for their actions. They need neither fear the floor, nor blame the floor for their missteps. Children should be educated about taking care for each step, responsibility, etc.

Moreover, any excuse from parents citing lack of time, or quick solution of quietening the children's cries, then they are spoiling their children in the long-run.

VRVD.